Magnify Money: How to confront an overspending spouse

Lili Vasileff is quoted in a recent article by Brittney Laryea for Magnify Money on how to handle a spouse who is chronically overspending. Lili says, "Financial infidelity is not a financial exercise, its an emotional exercise. Sometimes overspending may be the result of miscommunication, emergency spending, or unrelated, deeply seated emotional issues like an addiction."

How to confront an overspending spouse

By Brittney Laryea for MagnifyMoney.com - February 15, 2017

You’ve brown-bagged lunch for weeks and even cut out your morning latte and other non-essential purchases because you and your partner agreed to save up for your next vacation. A few months into saving, you’re riding in the passenger’s... Read More

This hot Hollywood divorce trend may not be for you

  • Bird nesting, whereby divorced or separated parents let their children stay in the same home while they take turns living in it, is getting mainstream attention.
  • The arrangement, which is portrayed in a new sitcom, holds real-life pros and cons for former couples who try it.
  • Financial experts urge families to keep lines of communication open and to put an expiration date on any such living arrangement in order to make it work.

Lorie Konish | @LorieKonish
Published 10:30 AM ET Mon, 16 April 2018 CNBC.com

Source: ABC Jenna Fischer and Oliver Hudson from the show "Splitting Up Together"

Where to live following a... Read More

Know the value of your spouse’s 401(k)?

In this article published in Bloomberg News, Lili Vasileff contributes to a discussion of the state of information sharing in marriages -- especially when it comes to financial details. Lili says, ‘‘Most couples don’t share fully financial details about private accounts, the nature of investments, or the amount of savings."
By Suzanne Woolley

Published in Bloomberg News, August 31, 2016

Trust of politicians in America seems to have reached a new low in this election season.

But who would have guessed how little trust exists across the kitchen table?

Many American couples don’t share even basic financial details of their retirement savings account, beyond the fact that they have one. Twenty-one percent of couples either married... Read More

Upcoming Events

Lili will be speaking at a variety of upcoming engagements, including:

April 19 – National Webinar: “The Platinum Retirement Challenge – Gray Divorce” for the Retirement Resource Center Professional Development Series at https://www.retirement-resource-center.com/

May 2 – New York City Bar on the financial issues in divorce: “Divorce 101.”

June 1 – FPA New York Chapter with Jeremy Doyle, BNY Mellon Title: “Divorce and... Read More

The Perfect Storm: Divorcing Baby Boomers

By FPA Member Lili A. Vasileff, CFP®, CDFA™

Published: January 27, 2012 

As Baby Boomers approach the last hurdle before the magic retirement age of 65, it is becoming increasingly newsworthy that growing legions of older Americans are untying the marital knot. With this trend for “gray” divorces, there are several challenges: dividing one household into two; re-evaluating near term retirement and estate planning goals; addressing gaps in health insurance coverages; re-examining investment decisions for longer life expectancies. It is truly a “perfect storm” where not only are your financial goals turned upside down, but planning is further complicated by emotional and psychological turmoil affecting your rational decision-making.

Every 10 seconds a Boomer turns 60... Read More

This is why baby boomers are divorcing at a stunning rate

Lili Vasileff is quoted in a recent article by Angela Moore for Market Watch on why older couples are deciding to divorce in record numbers. Lili says, “What’s pushing gray divorce is people are living longer and they feel more entitled to living fully. They’ve contributed to raising children, they want an emotional journey, it’s their time now. They may have decades ahead and don’t want to be unhappy anymore.”

When ‘until death do us part’ sounds like agony

By Angela Moore for Market WatchMarch 13, 2017

Looking ahead to the next phase of life can seem pretty dreadful if you can’t stand the person who you’ll be spending it with.

That may be what some boomers are facing.... Read More

Conversations About Divorce

Listen to Mandy Walker interview Lili on Blog Talk Radio

Nobody likes to talk about their debts and it's often the hardest part of negotiations in divorce.

Too often, one spouse didn't realize the extent of the debt or perhaps there's always been conflict because one party is a spender and the other is a saver. Perhaps both spouses knew about the debt but didn't really pay attention to it because, well, life was grand, the money was coming in, and borrowing for a second car or a vacation was part of the plan. It was all going to work out.

But then it doesn't work out and divorce happens. That means you... Read More

Planning Through Life’s Disruptions: Advising Late in Life Divorce

In this article for LifeHealth.com, Lili Vasileff explores the topic of late in life divorce. She says, "As a Baby Boomer approaching retirement, let us assume that you and your spouse have been fiscally responsible for most of your lives. But what happens when one household now unexpectedly divides itself in two with a late in life divorce?"


Planning Through Life's Disruptions: Advising Late in Life Divorce

How to help your client untangle, and protect, a mature retirement portfolio

by Lili A. Vasileff, CFP, CDFA

Ms. Vasileff received the national 2013 Pioneering Award for her public advocacy and leadership in the field of divorce financial planning. Lili is the President Emeritus of the national Association of Divorce Financial Planners and is a member of NAPFA,... Read More

Why Your Divorce is Unique

As you approach your golden years, you realize you may be heading toward divorce. Now you start asking questions: how does one start the process, how much is it going to cost, and how long does it take?

Many Baby Boomers have misconceptions about divorce. These misconceptions arise from all sorts of people who mean well but mislead when sharing their own experiences and “knowledge from the battlefield”. Everyone has a story to tell. It seems that either they came through divorce reasonably well or they are financially devastated by divorce. The perils of not knowing what lie ahead seem enormous. Your anxiety is clearly growing as it becomes increasingly confusing to know... Read More

How to avoid mistakes dividing up 401(k) assets in divorce

  • Different types of retirement accounts are subject to different rules.
  • Dividing workplace plans like 401(k)s and traditional pensions requires a court order that is separate from the divorce agreement.
  • It's important to make sure the attorney drafting that separate document is an expert in this.

Sarah O'Brien | @sarahtgobrien
Published 12:30 PM ET Wed, 7 March 2018 Updated 5:59 PM ET Wed, 7 March 2018

Divorcing couples can face enough agony as it is dividing up possessions and agreeing on custody of children, let alone splitting retirement assets.

Yet that nest egg often represents a divorcing couple's largest pot of money. And if the process for the division of those assets is not done... Read More

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